Yup, that's right, be selfish for the sake of others. Think about the last time you were on an airplane. During the safety talk you undoubtedly were told, "in the event of a change in cabin pressure, oxygen masks will fall from the overhead compartment. Please secure your mask before helping others." Why do they tell you to secure your mask before helping others? The answer is obvious; you're no help to your child, or anyone else, if you pass out. We can clearly see the logic there.
The same logic can be applied to the rest of our life. How can we expect to be energetic with our family if we haven't prioritized our own sleep? What happens to our temper when we feel stretched thin from an abundance of stress and lack of exercise? Will we be able to show up, as the person we most appreciate, if we're fighting off the flu because we haven't had time to sit down and eat real food? Please secure your mask before helping others.
Personally, I think we become extraordinary role models when we prioritize self-care. So, as family begins to arrive, and the holiday season reaches its peak, remember, it's ok to take 5, 10, or 30 minutes for you. I know things are busier than usual but 5 minutes gazing out the window with a cup of tea, 10 minutes of movement, and 30 minutes to sit down and eat a meal will make a difference not just in how you feel but also, in how you show up for your family.
Happiest of holidays to you. May it be filled with love, laughter, and light!